Ralph’s* Story – through the eyes of his Mum
Ralph* is afforded all the choices and independence that any young man would have. He goes shopping to choose his own clothes and to the pub for lunch. It was recently arranged for us to join him; we went bowling and enjoyed lunch at a pub. It was a fantastic success; Ralph* was happy to wear the bowling shoes and wait patiently for his turn. It may not sound a lot in the “normal world”, but to us with Ralph* it was incredible. I can’t explain enough how much it means to me to have a relationship like this with my son at last.
We have set Ralph* up with a Skype account and we began skyping regularly each weekend. More recently, Ralph* bought an iPad (with a very strong protective cover!), so that we could video chat more often and so he could swap photos with us at home. This had been fantastic for him; he loves it. He also uses it with “autism friendly” apps which he enjoys.
We are now planning a family break for Ralph*, with his brothers, parents and aunt and uncle, to celebrate his 30th birthday this year. This will be a dream come true for us. Ralph* has been home for Sunday lunch, which he has not done for several years. We are working towards Ralph* eventually having an overnight stay at home, which, again I never thought would happen.